What is it about the Muslim community that we find it OK to be judgmental toward one another?
And by Muslim community, maybe I should specify that it’s a global community.
Why do we feel that the whole role of “giving advice” or “helping to guide your brothers and sisters” means that we can turn it into a gossip fest?
I see people posting things all the time with something that is supposed to sound like an advice piece, but really comes off as a backhanded judgement call.
Personally, I’ve come to a point where I don’t really pay attention to the negative vibes that are sent my way on an almost daily basis via Hijabtrendz.
There are too many ignorant people parading themselves as Muslims and I honestly don’t have time to respond to each and every one of them. It’s exhausting and I’m done with being defensive.
I’ve come to the point that I finally understand that what it all comes down to is that either they are:
A: internet trolls trying to stir the pot or
B: an insecure person who feels somehow threatened by those who get to choose the path they take in life.
I recently read an article that really addressed this topic by saying that often times people who get angry when you have religious differences… are not really angry, but they are afraid!
And I thought, that’s totally it!
We often don’t know how to respond to certain situations that disrupt our point of view.
I mean what would you do if you found out something you grew up thinking was true, turned out to be a lie?
You would be angry of course! And then you would most likely feel scared because what else in your life is now a lie?
So I try to imagine these negative people who are never happy and I try to understand where they are coming from and this is what I have concluded:
Negative people are often deeply insecure. And deeply insecure people are often negative.
What can we do to change that if we find ourselves on this self destructive path?
Let go of worrying about what everyone else is doing, let go of worrying about what other people think of you.
Be proud of who you are and where you come from, and don’t let people push you in a corner because THEY haven’t figured out how to get out of this cycle.
And that is now how I try to live my life.
It’s not perfect and there are times when I feel myself slipping into negative thinking.
I often worry that whatever I do will make fans of the website turn against me, because it’s not what THEY think is the perfect representation of a Muslim woman.
But, it’s important to recognize that thought pattern and get out of it.
I know that I can’t please everyone and I’ll never be the “perfect” Muslim that people somehow seem to think I have to be. Trust me I get comments all the time on how I’m leading Muslim women astray.
Bottom line: I’m going to be myself, and if people are not able to handle that, they can go be miserable somewhere else, because I will not allow myself to slip down to their level.
Thanking God for the blessings we have, spreading peace, love, happiness and putting out good into the world is way more important than whether a piece of cloth is worn correctly on the head, or even if it’s worn at all.