Do you say “I Love You” to your friends, family, significant other?
Is it something you really mean, or has it become habit to just utter those words at the end of a phone call, “ok bye love ya”.
When I got married, my husband and I said that we always wanted to be able to show emotion and express our feelings not only to one another, but to our children.
Growing up I remember always running up to my dad when he’d come home from work and giving him a huge hug and kiss. I also used to randomly cuddle up to my mom and tell her, “Mama I love you. You’re the best mom in the whole wide world!”
But as I grew older and went through my awkward teen years, something happened. I seemed to have become a little detached from my parents. I love them with all my heart, but over the years I realized that it’s never expressed out loud. It just feels awkward, and maybe it’s because it was something we as a family never really worked on. It wasn’t something that anyone ever made a point of nurturing. I don’t want it to sound like there is no love in my family, because there is! But it’s not like what you see on TV where people are always sharing their feelings out in the open. Maybe it’s also because I have 4 brothers and they probably would find it strange to be all lovey dovey.
Bottom line is, I don’t want that with my kids and I know I have to work hard if I want to avoid the status quo. My girls are young now and perhaps it’s easy now. When I put my 3 year old to bed she tells me, “Goodnight mama, I love you!” and sometimes she comes up to me randomly and says, “Mama, I love you to the max!” She also shares the same emotion with my husband and it’s something I hope will continue forever.
I’m sure things change when kids grow up and rebel and go through awkward teenage years, but I feel that expressing our feelings with words and actions is something everyone needs. When you hear someone tell you how much they care about you and love you, it never gets old.
I personally believe that if more people said, “I love you” to the people they care about, and let them know how much they meant to them, the world would be a better place.
Is expressing/not expressing your feelings a matter of culture, upbringing, or society, etc?