There are times when I’m in a bad mood and everything seems to annoy me.
If I log on to social media and see people living fairy tale lives, and I get even angrier inside.
It’s all subconscious, but I notice I get affected when I start feeling like I’m ugly or don’t have nice things, etc. And when I get into that thought pattern, I realize something else is bothering me that has nothing to do with anyone else.
Why is that? Because whatever I’m going through internally is being projected on others.
I’ve always heard about the correlation between people who become jealous of others due to their own personal insecurities, and I think there is some truth to that.
We can pick apart someone we don’t know or in some cases maybe someone we do know, because it’s easy. You basically find all the negative things about them and you feel better about yourself.
Everyone does this at some point, and if you’ve never done that, you must not be human! lol
For example, when watching TV we pick apart celebrities, “Did she get a nose job?” “Oh wow someone needs to lose weight.”
And I think it works in making us feel better, because then we don’t have to face our own problems.
If you hear someone who is not able to sing well, it may make you feel better to point that out. Particularly if you want to be a singer and lack the confidence and you see someone who is horrible, but is able to stand up and perform.
These are just a few examples. But I’m sure if you’re online you see plenty of “trolls” who’s main goal in life seems to be to provoke others and cause drama.
There is a lot of this kind of judgement in religious communities where people feel the need to police others and their lack of religiosity.
And it’s something I call “Superior Muslim Syndrome”.
It used to be hidden, but now with the internet, we see it loud and clear.
What surprises me is that people are not shy about sharing their hatred or their “I’m more Muslim than you” posts.
They fight, they throw in religious texts and quote often they are a walking contradiction.
It’s a topic that I can talk about endlessly, but then I find myself sinking to their level and getting way too upset.
People accuse me of not being Muslim enough on a daily basis, and all I can do is let them vent, because after all, I’m happy in my life and they must be pretty darn miserable.
And the more you point out other people’s issues, the more unhappy you become with your own life. So these folks are in for a vicious cycle of unhappiness.
My advice is not to get caught up in looking at other people and what they have that you don’t. And certainly not to look at what they don’t have in order to feel superior.
Just be confident in yourself and your life and don’t get caught up in the stupidity that is so prevalent these days.
When we refuse to be part of these horrible comments and conversations and ignore those who feel the need to be so angry with the world, they may not exactly go away, but we will definitely reduce the power their words hold over us.